Thursday, June 21, 2007 . 2:50 PM
Labels: stories
One of the most hurting words that one can ever get from someone they love is that they apparently do not love her/him anymore.
Quite often, this sentence would be repeated to someone else, someone not involved in the relationship/marriage.
He told her that he doesn't love his wife anymore. They have been married for more than 15 years, have 3 lovely kids together. But, he doesn't love his wife..anymore.He had chose a really timely period to confess that he really likes her. She on the other hand, have been having problems with her husband. She couldn't get pass the fact that she had married him without love..
As he was at her side when she felt most down and confused, she was gradually won by his tender, warm words and companionship. Eventually, a forbidden relationship blossomed.
She had decided to sought a divorce, fumed by her new found relationship and failures in her marriage. To her horror, she found out that he had changed his mind. He will never divorce his wife.
SO much for the sweet, warm , tender words. SO much for the fact that he doesn't love his wife anymore.
When men lust or covet for someone, they can say anything, sprinkling sugarcoated words all over, making any promises. They can pluck the stars off the skies for you. They can even bring u the most expensive gifts. They were probably saying,doing all these for their wives, in their courting days. He probably had told her million times how much he loves her.
When a girl is in love, she becomes blind.Blind towards logic. Towards sense and sensibility. He must really be a bastard to claim that he doesn't love his wife anymore, because he must have loved her in the 1st place to go after her etc.
So i have learnt, that if a man tells you he doesn't' love someone he has been spending so many years with,in such an intimate marriage, he must either be too confused, bastard, or out to have a good time. Never find excuses for him.That only means your too blind ...
He had also told me that he no longer have any feelings for his girlfriend of 3,4 years..They had spent considerably long amount of time being apart. She has been studying abroad for all those years. Maybe, it's understandable that feelings change overtime, over years and being apart makes it worse. The only difference in this situation is that im not interested in him. Nevertheless, i didn't like the idea of an attached guy liking me.And i was attached at that point of time. We remained as friends, after i made it clear to him. He had graciously accepted my decisions, even though it took a while for himself to get over. Deep in my mind, i wonder if he should really continue being with his gf, since it seems like they have different values in life. Eventually after waiting for another 2 more years for her, she came back for good. They got engaged not long after. And they have just gotten married. I wonder if their marriage is good?
No men and women are perfect. None of us are saints. It is human to err. It's just a matter of how much we err? How much we know we are going to fall and yet we still made the decision to fall.
Another guy had told me how attractive i am and compared myself with his girlfriend, again of many years. And how lucky my bf is...but the fact is that freaking idiot didn't think of himself as lucky.I gez he was implying that he wishes to know me more etc. We remained just as friends. I drew my distance. Although nothing got further than that, i couldn't help but felt disgusted. They have gotten engaged last year, would be preparing for their wedding soon.
A married man approached me on Friendster, proposing to give me 4k a month if i agree to go on an affair with him. It is his 1st time doing and he confessed that he only wants to make life more interesting for himself.
If there's something wrong with you relationship/ marriage life, i think the solution is to solve it. It's a simple truth. Solve. But many pple,run away from problems, before they even start, they think that there's no solution. There's always a solution.
A relationship/ marriage needs to be maintained with love and continual efforts. Real love is when you don't feel like loving a person already, but yet you still choose to love him/her by doing what is best for him/her, that doesn't mean fooling around. Love is a choice, never just a feeling.
