Wednesday, February 14, 2007 . 12:32 AM
Today, my ex cell group gal asked me on msn about how i define what love is. She's doing a survey, for one of her modules, some sociology module i think.
Love is not something that you can so simply describe. There are so many things that makes up what love is. There are many kinds of love. Actually, like Lloyd puts it a year ++ back, love is not a feeling, or chemistry, logic or reasons. Some pple love ...bcos of reasons. Bcos the guy is rich, bcos he's cute, bcos she's hot, etc...
Love does not need a reason. Why does God loves us? Bcos He loves us lar. Are we worth His love? Nope. DO we always deserve our parents' unconditional love for us? I don't think so. WHy do we love our parents? Besides the fact that they raised us up, we love them just cos they are our parents.
I thought for awhile,before i summarised what i can understand about love ..at this point of my life. Love is willingly and unselfishly doing what is best for the other person( or persons). There's no reason y you love someone. Love is simply a choice. Bcos i chose to love him/her.
But then again, there are reasons why you may b attracted to a certain person, your family backgrounds, your upbringing,your values...define the kind of choices you make in choosing your spouse...
I used to think that love can be balanced and equal. But that's not true. Now i know that love is not about equality in both sexes. We were made for different roles in a relationship. How a guy shows love is different from how a gal shows her love, but are they not loving each other?
V-day ..is just another ordinary day. But many guys will on this day, by social pressure or watever other reasons would do something, buy something to 'show' his love to their gfs. For me...v-day is just another day. What matters most is a guy's sincerities. And his sincerity ALL THE TIME, not onli on special occasions.
yes..i feel very blessed. I never thought that i have the 'luck' ( well christians don believe in luck...but i mean the chinese way of looking at things) or the 'life' to actually have an enjoyable and proper relationship. I've seen too many relationships turned ugly and bad. Many pple likes to find love in the wrong places and end up being tortured but yet they think it's normal. Isn't that twisted? I once was trapped in something like that as well.
There is a deep satisfaction in this relationship that i've never knew it could exist in my life, i've only seen it in some couples. We treasure each other so much, bcos this relationship didn't come easy.
Marriage was somethign that i do not understand. I do not understand y pple want to get married. I think marraige is really the death of my life, or a couple's life. That's a really selfish thing on my part. Im unwilling to part with my carefree lifestyle for marrige, which means havign to sacrifice my lifestyle and freedom etc. I only saw the bad parts about marriage. And i gez..i also didn't meet the right man, i didnt' haev the intention or desire to actually really want to marry him. A fren thought that i was being too rush to get attached. Was it too rush? WE waited for more than 6 mths to get together. I know wat i want. I've found it. And we are happy. And i begin to be able to see my future with this man, marriage...and even kids..... (you know i hate the idea of having kids in the past.....im not so agianst it anymore, but well...see where God leads)
It's amazing how things turned out for us.WE have come a full circle. Things do fall into place when your eyes are fixed onto Jesus. God taught me alot of lessons that was rather painful and difficult during last year...i'm glad.
God is the matchmaker, in each relatioonships that lead to marriage (provided you followed his lead..). Follow his lead and you will find your way to each other.
Happy v day everyone.
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